May 21, 2017

This is the third and final part of this series. This is where it all ends, and you can see the whole picture now. Thank you guys for reading. Thank you for commenting. Thank you giving me a chance. I appreciate it more than anything. Enjoy part three.


Don't we all just want to look and feel beautiful? It's the main focus in our society. It's why we wear nice clothes, get our nails done, get our hair done, beat tf out of our faces. (But it's all for ourselves of course). Yet, we find so many men and women that can't even look in the mirror without pointing a flaw. So many of us are unhappy with the way we look; always trying out the next beauty product or slim tea to make ourselves look better. In what sense though? Do you ever sit and think to yourself, "why are these our beauty standards and those aren't?"

Here's the thing. The concept of a "standard of beauty" is nothing but an illusion that was created to control weak minded, self conscious, and vulnerable people into pressuring them to think that their not good enough just the way they are. Kendall Jenner is not a beauty standard. She is not who you should strive to look like. She is just one of the many beautiful people in this world. Models, celebrities, social media influencers, hell, the girl in your math class, are not the faces of beauty standards for you and me.Why? You ever heard of that annoying quote, "beauty is the eye of the beholder"? Well, let me tell you, that beholder is you. The only person's opinion regarding your beauty that you should ever worry about, is your own. 

Let's tie this into attachments and detachments. I like think of this one quote by MODSUN and how important it is to live by:
im better than no one + no one is better than me
You only think someone is prettier than you if you've accepted and attached yourself to this "standard of beauty" created by society. Oh, she has long hair she's so much prettier than me. Oh she has a smaller stomach she's so much prettier than me. Oh she has no cellulite she's so much prettier than me. Do you see the problem here? Beauty is more than just your outward appearance. Beauty, to me, is a multitude of things. It's a physical, emotional, and spiritual phenomena. By only associating it with the physicality, you're cutting yourself short. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is that just because you don't fall under these so called "beauty standards", it doesn't mean you're not beautiful. Just because you look different from the model on the magazine, it doesn't mean you're not worthy enough to be on the front cover too. Life is already hard enough, and having to carry around this burden of not feeling adequate because you have stretch marks, or fat rolls, or a small butt, or whatever else society deems as unattractive, is exhausting. You don't have to carry it around if you don't want to. I'm not saying it'll be easy. I'm not saying by rejecting societies beauty standards you'll automatically see yourself as attractive. But self love is a journey that you have to start somewhere, so why not here?

Detach yourself from beauty standards and become your own standard of beauty.

Ahh, we've made it to the end of this little series. I hope you guys enjoyed it. Maybe you gained a new perspective, or expanded one you already had. Maybe you just think I'm a complete whacko. That's cool too. Regardless, I've had such a fun time sharing this with you guys. This was the best way to get back into blogging and I'm so happy I pushed myself to do this. 

Mini series is now complete. Feels good to get all my thoughts out there. Drop a comment, let me know how you felt about it. Maybe I'll do more of these in the future. 

Until next time, 


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