IT'S 2017. BE NICE. BE GOOD.

April 3, 2017


I just finished watching 13 Reasons Why on Netflix and wow. This story has such a powerful and important message behind it. It's beautiful yet painful. It's not filtered, but candid and raw. The directors and writers didn't shy away from anything. Not only suicide, but rape were brought into light in the most authentic way I've seen so far in the entertainment industry. Mind you, these aren't easy topics to talk about. I've seen people try and glide over them without fully exposing what they are and how they affect people.

This isn't a review on the Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why. Although I HIGHLY AND STRONGLY RECOMMEND YOU WATCH IT, this post is centered about what I learned from watching it and how it has affected me. It might not come to a shocker to anyone, but I did get emotional when I watched this, more so towards the end. I had a very general overview of what the story consisted of, but I had no idea what was coming my way. I found myself watching every episode back to back. I finished the entire thing in 3 days. And in those 3 days, I think I learned a valuable lesson.

BE NICE. 

Two simple words, yet it's something that everyone struggles to do, myself included. Ever since I was a kid, I've always been labeled as the "kind" one. People would always describe me to be sweet and quiet. I was nice to people. I didn't judge. I always listened. Then I fell into the trap called high school. I adopted this "I don't give a fuck about anyone" attitude and turned into a complete bitch. I wasn't recognized as the "kind" girl anymore, but as the girl who talked badly about people, at least to me. Although others didn't really notice this change in me, I did, and I held on to it. Until now. I use to think that being kind was for the weak, and that people would take advantage of you because of it. And they do, sometimes. But kindness is not for the weak. It takes a strong person to not fight fire with fire. It takes a strong person to help someone who is hurting. It takes a strong person to uplift and empower others. Talking shit is for the weak. Bullying others is for the weak. Putting people down and purposely hurting them is for the weak. Kindness takes incredible strength, and anyone who tells you differently is a liar. 

Words have a powerful affect on others. With the rise of social media, it's so easy to hide behind a screen and say whatever you want to whoever you want. It's easy to comment "fat" or "slut" under someone's instagram picture. But just because it's easy, doesn't mean it's right. It's okay to not find someone attractive, but what's not okay is for you to publicly go out of your way to tell them that. Keep that shit to yourself. Words fucking hurt. They are powerful in the ways that people use them. I've come(or is it came?) home crying because kids at school would pick on me and joke around about my insecurities. And my "friends" would do nothing but just sit there and stare at me. Picking on something that someone can't change in 10 seconds and then saying it's a "joke" when they get upset is bullshit. Stop it.  And stop tagging along with the bullies. It's not worth trying to fit in, it's a desperate and pathetic act that I myself wish I never took part of. 

At the end of the day, just be nice. That's all I can really ask from you and from myself, is to just be a nice person. Be kind. Be generous. Reach out to people who you know are hurting. Try at least, in whatever way you can. Let others see you as an option and not suicide. Don't be afraid to stand up for people who are being mistreated. It takes nothing away from you to help someone. Just because you're kind, doesn't mean that you're allowing yourself to be walked all over on. Just because you care and want to help others, doesn't mean that you have to let people take advantage of you. You can give someone your hand without letting them pull you in.

I'm looking over at my clock and it's 1:50 A.M. on a Monday morning during spring break. Middle of the nights seem to be my prime time when it comes to writing blog posts lol. I'm ending things off here and I know this post wasn't super long or super detailed, but I hope that you were able to take something away from it. Go watch 13 Reasons Why if you haven't already. Be nice. Be good. Be kind.

Until next time,

k.m.


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