MINI BOOK HAUL

June 21, 2017


Soooooooo I have a problem.

I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't buy anymore books for the remainder of summer, and then this happened. I have no self control whatsoever when it comes to buying books. I'll be content with what I have on my bookshelf one minute, and then I'll find my Amazon cart to be have 50 books ready for purchase. It's an addiction that gets me in trouble sometimes, but one that I'm kind of proud to have? While others are addicted to buying cocaine, I'm addicted to buying books. I don't why I just said that.

Although this book haul is fairly short, I still wanted to post it because I'm pretty happy with my purchases and I want to share that with you guys. Maybe some of you have already read some of these books, and if so, please let me know what you think about them in the comments below. Maybe some of you will get some new books to add to your TBR list.

Regardless, I hope you guys enjoy this mini book haul!


HOW TO BE A BAWSE BY LILLY SINGH


From actress, comedian, and YouTube sensation Lilly Singh (aka ||Superwoman||) comes the definitive guide to being a bawse—a person who exudes confidence, reaches goals, gets hurt efficiently, and smiles genuinely because they’ve fought through it all and made it out the other side. 

Told in her hilarious, bold voice that’s inspired over nine million fans, and using stories from her own life to illustrate her message, Lilly proves that there are no shortcuts to success. 

WARNING: This book does not include hopeful thoughts, lucky charms, and cute quotes. That’s because success, happiness, and everything else you want in life needs to be fought for—not wished for. In Lilly’s world, there are no escalators, only stairs. Get ready to climb. - Goodreads

I don't willingly go out of my way and spend $15.30 on just any book. I'm really stingy with my money and $15 for a book on Amazon seemed like a lot for me, but I had to a make an exception for Ms. Singh over here. I've heard about Superwoman, but never paid that much attention to her until now. You could say I'm her number one fan now. I knew she wrote a book, but because she was a YouTuber I just brushed it aside because well, I've seen some of the books YouTubers release, and their not that great (in my opinion don't shoot me). But after watching a couple interviews and a one hour book tour video for her book, I just knew I had to have it. I've already read over 25 pages of it, and I'm loving it.


WOMEN WHO RUN WITH THE WOLVES BY CLARISSA PINKOLA ESTES


Within every woman there is a wild and natural creature, a powerful force, filled with good instincts, passionate creativity, and ageless knowing. Her name is Wild Woman, but she is an endangered species. Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D., Jungian analyst and cantadora storyteller shows how women's vitality can be restored through what she calls "psychic archeological digs" into the ruins of the female unconsious. Using multicultural myths, fairy tales, folk tales, and stories, Dr. Estes helps women reconnect with the healthy, instinctual, visionary attributes of the Wild Woman archetype.

Dr. Estes has created a new lexicon for describing the female psyche. Fertile and life-giving, it is a psychology of women in the truest sense, a knowing of the soul. - Goodreads

I first heard of this book by Sarah K on Youtube and I just knew I had to get my hands on it. The whole concept of women and wolves and the similarities they share intrigued me and I wanted to learn more about it. I've already began to read it, and let me tell you, this isn't an easy book to read. There's a lot of terms I don't know and the information is dense. I've put it aside for now in hopes that I'll pick it up in the future.

IT ENDS WITH US BY COLLEEN HOOVER


Lily hasn't always had it easy, but that's never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. She's come a long way from the small town in Maine where she grew up - she graduated from college, moved to Boston, and started her own business. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily's life suddenly seems almost too good to be true.

Ryle is assertive, stubborn, and maybe even a little arrogant. He's also sensitive, brilliant, and has a total soft spot for Lily, but Ryle's complete aversion to relationships is disturbing.

As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan - her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.

With this bold and deeply personal novel, Colleen Hoover delivers a heart-wrenching story that breaks exciting new ground for her as a writer. It Ends With Us is an unforgettable tale of love that comes at the ultimate price. -Goodreads

I've heard so many thing about Colleen Hoover and I've always wanted to try out some of her books, I just never knew where to begin. I saw one of my favorite Goodreads reviewers gave this book a 4 star rating, and I trust her reviews more than anything because she's lead me to some of my favorite books now. I kind of bought this book on a whim and I don't know too much about it, but hopefully it's a good one. I have a feeling it is.

IF YOU DARE BY A.R. TORRE


The rules are the same. I can't open the door. I can't leave. I can't kill anyone.

The only difference is, I don't set the rules anymore. Guards in grey uniforms do. It is everything I never wanted and everything I always deserved. I write to you now, from a prison cell. My home for the next twenty to thirty years.

That's the going term for murder. - Goodreads

AHHHHHHHH. If you know me, you know how much I love the Deanna Madden series by A.R. Torre. I read The Girl in 6E and Do Not Disturb, where I rated them both 5 stars. This series is absolutely amazing and I'm addicted to the characters, the plot lines, and the writing. After finishing Do Not Disturb, I knew I had to get my hands on the third and maybe the final book in the series. I'm so excited to read this!!!!!!


If all goes well, you can expect book reviews and possibly discussions on all 4 of these books. Pray for me to have some strength and that I don't make any more purchases in the future. I'm an incoming freshman and college ain't cheap.

Until next time, 

k.m.

BOOK REVIEW | DO NOT DISTURB BY A.R. TORRE

June 5, 2017


Disclaimer: Even though I think this is obvious, if you haven't read The Girl In 6E, don't read this review because it will spoil parts of the previous book.

Synopsis
Equal parts Dexter and 50 Shades, this is the eagerly awaited follow-up to the daring erotic thriller, The Girl in 6E, by A.R. Torre.

1. Don't leave the apartment.
2. Never let anyone in.
3. Don't kill anyone.

The rules were simple and I broke them.
Now I must face the consequences.
Everyone else must face me. - Goodreads

Plot
When it comes to this series, I never like to give out too much information about the plot because this is a suspenseful series. The lack of knowledge about the plot is what makes the reading experience the best. But I will give you a little snoop.

We all know how The Girl in 6E ended, and Do Not Disturb picks up a few weeks after the Ralph incident and Deanna's come to rescue, superhero moment. With her new taste of the outside world, Deanna's urges are at an all time high as she tries to be "normal" while thinking of how nice it would be to slit the throat of her next victim. Deanna continues to cam while maintaining a relationship with her boyfriend, Jeremy, aka the love of my life. Of course there is a threat that follows Deanna that only gets stronger as the story progresses, because without one, this wouldn't be a A.R. Torre original now would it?

The plot will have you shaking in your seat with your hands stalled, terrified to turn the page.

Characters
Deanna. Honestly, I love this woman. I absolutely love reading about broken characters. Characters that are fighting a darkness that grows within them. Deanna is a hard character to not love for me. Of course there were moments where I just wanted to shake her because of some of her choices, but overall, she's so interesting to read about. The depth to her character is still something that blows my mind. Even though the series is told from her POV primarily, I still feel like there's so much about her that I don't know. You never know what to expect from her. She still has secrets that even the reader doesn't know about.

Jeremy. I loved Jeremy the moment I met him. He's not a hard character to not love. He's sweet, caring, charming, and sexy as hell. My goodness. This man had me fanning myself. The chemistry between him and Deanna is of one of the strongest that I've read between two characters. There's so many reasons as to why Jeremy shouldn't be with Deanna, one of them being that she might kill him, but he stays with her anyway. He cares for her. He's there for her even when she can't be there for herself. Just like Deanna said, he might be her salvation.

Mike. Deanna's hacker. We got to know a little about him in the previous book, but we learned a lot more about him this time around. I don't know how I feel about Mike. I don't hate him but I'm not crazy about him. There's so much I still don't know about him, but I guess that comes with him being a hacker. I still find him interesting nonetheless. I would love to have his character explored more in the next and final book (I believe).

Writing 
Engaging as hell. Torre knows how to keep her readers hooked. Do Not Disturb had the right amount of dialogue and description. The vocabulary itself was not too difficult to digest. With this being an erotic thriller, there's a lot of mature content. Torre does not shy away from anything in this book. She gives you just the right amount of description to have your skin crawling. The explicit scenes are tasteful yet raunchy in the best way possible. I just know that with Torre, her writing always exceeds my expectations. Phenomenal. Captivating. Stunning in it's entirety.

Final Thoughts
JGJKDSGFKJGASKJFGSKAGFKJASFJKASHFKSJABFJKSAFBSAJKBFKJSABGASBGKJAS.

Literally, that's my final thought. This book left me speechless. Torre just keeps surprising me. I've never read a book that evoked so much emotion out of me. When I say my heart was beating so fast and my hands were literally SHAKING as I turned the pages, I'm not lying. I love it. I love it. I love it. The plot, the characters, the writing,  AH!



I've already bought If You Dare, and it's on it's way to my house as we speak!

Rating
5 OUT OF 5 STARS !!!!!!


Until next time,

k.m.

PART 3 | BEAUTY

May 21, 2017


This is the third and final part of this series. This is where it all ends, and you can see the whole picture now. Thank you guys for reading. Thank you for commenting. Thank you giving me a chance. I appreciate it more than anything. Enjoy part three.

beauty.

Don't we all just want to look and feel beautiful? It's the main focus in our society. It's why we wear nice clothes, get our nails done, get our hair done, beat tf out of our faces. (But it's all for ourselves of course). Yet, we find so many men and women that can't even look in the mirror without pointing a flaw. So many of us are unhappy with the way we look; always trying out the next beauty product or slim tea to make ourselves look better. In what sense though? Do you ever sit and think to yourself, "why are these our beauty standards and those aren't?"

Here's the thing. The concept of a "standard of beauty" is nothing but an illusion that was created to control weak minded, self conscious, and vulnerable people into pressuring them to think that their not good enough just the way they are. Kendall Jenner is not a beauty standard. She is not who you should strive to look like. She is just one of the many beautiful people in this world. Models, celebrities, social media influencers, hell, the girl in your math class, are not the faces of beauty standards for you and me.Why? You ever heard of that annoying quote, "beauty is the eye of the beholder"? Well, let me tell you, that beholder is you. The only person's opinion regarding your beauty that you should ever worry about, is your own. 

Let's tie this into attachments and detachments. I like think of this one quote by MODSUN and how important it is to live by:
im better than no one + no one is better than me
You only think someone is prettier than you if you've accepted and attached yourself to this "standard of beauty" created by society. Oh, she has long hair she's so much prettier than me. Oh she has a smaller stomach she's so much prettier than me. Oh she has no cellulite she's so much prettier than me. Do you see the problem here? Beauty is more than just your outward appearance. Beauty, to me, is a multitude of things. It's a physical, emotional, and spiritual phenomena. By only associating it with the physicality, you're cutting yourself short. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is that just because you don't fall under these so called "beauty standards", it doesn't mean you're not beautiful. Just because you look different from the model on the magazine, it doesn't mean you're not worthy enough to be on the front cover too. Life is already hard enough, and having to carry around this burden of not feeling adequate because you have stretch marks, or fat rolls, or a small butt, or whatever else society deems as unattractive, is exhausting. You don't have to carry it around if you don't want to. I'm not saying it'll be easy. I'm not saying by rejecting societies beauty standards you'll automatically see yourself as attractive. But self love is a journey that you have to start somewhere, so why not here?

Detach yourself from beauty standards and become your own standard of beauty.


Ahh, we've made it to the end of this little series. I hope you guys enjoyed it. Maybe you gained a new perspective, or expanded one you already had. Maybe you just think I'm a complete whacko. That's cool too. Regardless, I've had such a fun time sharing this with you guys. This was the best way to get back into blogging and I'm so happy I pushed myself to do this. 

Mini series is now complete. Feels good to get all my thoughts out there. Drop a comment, let me know how you felt about it. Maybe I'll do more of these in the future. 


Until next time, 

k.m.

PART 2 | LOVE

May 17, 2017


I'm actually writing part one and part two to this short mini series in one night. Yay for productivity! My mind is flowing and I have so many things I want to say, so I'm just going to stop being scared for a second and just get this shit out there! Can you tell I'm excited?

Let's skip the long intro and just jump right into the topic of this discussion,

love

The most complex thing in the world. I still feel that no matter how hard I try to make sense of it, I still don't know what it is. I guess it's because it's that type of thing that can't be explained through words, but through actions. Who knows.

Here's a quick little psychology lesson. There are three types of emotions. Basic emotions are the ones that are biologically predetermined, such as anger, happiness, sadness, and fear. Mixed emotions are different emotions experienced at the same time, such as feeling bittersweet. And lastly, there's complex emotions, which is produced by combinations of basic emotions, such as love. Got it? Good. That information will serve as the foundation of this discussion. 

If you remember in part one of this series, I mentioned how love is the only thing we should attach to because unlike everything else, it's permanent. It's different from all the other emotions we experience because we don't just feel it, we live in it, we walk in it. It's a life long continuation. I don't believe that life, what we're all experiencing right now, is the beginning or the end for us. I believe in a before life and an afterlife. Before life we were love, during life we are love, and afterlife we will still be love. Love is essentially who we are and what connects us to each other. It's really all we have. It's the truth and it transcends everything that is natural. Love is a supernatural power.  

Love can be a miracle that can save so many of us, but it can also be a tragedy that can kill so many of us. I'm pretty sure we've all read Romeo and Juliet. The true extent of it's power is beyond my knowledge. I see love as something that is permanent. When it comes to people, the human body is only a temporary thing, therefore, people are temporary. Temporary things have walls and barriers and boundaries. They all eventually die or forsake you in some other way. However, love knows no barriers. It knows no box. It's not something that can be structured or meant to be understood in it's entirety. Its ambiguity and vagueness is what gives it its power. What humans can understand, they can control and exploit. What humans can understand. they can, no, they will try and label it and place it in a box. Love is the purest thing there is to exist. Without it, we wouldn't exist. 

I don't know how to describe love, but this is my attempt at seeing it for what it is and trying to make sense of it all. We are love. You can't find love in something that is from this Earth, because like I said, everything of this world is limited, and love is infinite. We don't love humans, we love their souls. Just like love, our souls were apart of a before life and will be part of an afterlife. It's just enclosed inside a temple we call our bodies right now. The more you tap into your soul, the more you tap into love. I hope this doesn't sound too wanky.

Two parts down, only one more to go, beauty....

Part 1

Until next time, 

k.m.

PART 1 | ATTACHMENTS & DETACHMENTS

May 15, 2017


It's been forever since I wrote a post, yet alone one dealing with my thoughts. I've been slacking off on blogging for multiple reasons. One of them being that I'm very insecure about my writing and I usually don't think it's good enough. It sucks. The other reason is that I haven't been as inspired or motivated as usual in the past couple of weeks. April was kind of a dead month on Kathlyn's Korner, and I'm just now starting back up in the middle of May. Hopefully I won't be taking anymore huge breaks from blogging. I miss it so much.

Enough of all that though, let's get down to business. Today's post is part of a short mini series that I'm starting up on my blog. About 2 nights ago I found my thoughts to be all over the place, and I was jumping from one concept to another. But in a way, they all intertwined and connected with each other. I immediately started to jot them down and was so excited to share them with you. The original plan was to type them all up in one post, but then I realized how extra that would be to read because a lot was going on up there. So instead I decided to split the post into three parts: attachments and detachments, love, and beauty. Based on the title, we're covering attachments and detachments today (woohoo)!

attachments and detachments.

We as human beings have a tendency to attach to things. A lot of different things. Mostly materialistic things. Sometimes people. And it's not just physically attaching ourselves to these things. It's also emotionally clinging onto these things and/or people. It's allowing these attachments to define who we are. I'm no stranger to this. I've allowed myself be consumed by my attachments to a multitude of things. Whether that be books, people, trends, labels, you name it and more than likely, I've clung to it. What we have to understand, or I guess, what I've come to understand, is that all earthly attachments are temporary. They don't last. They can pick up and leave you whenever they want. Nothing on this earth is permanent. Expect love, but we'll get into that in the second part of this series.

This is how I see it. Speaking from experience, when something brings me happiness, I tend to clutch it a little too close to my heart. Too close to the point where the same thing that once brought me happiness, now brings me nothing but the anxiety of it potentially leaving me. It's no longer a joyful thing. It's no longer pleasurable. It's a good thing turned bad because I couldn't let it go. I attached myself to a temporary thing, and eventually, it left me.

Here's the thing, learn to detach yourself from everything, except love, and you will free yourself. You won't feel trapped. You won't feel imprisoned in your own happiness. You won't be disappointed as much because you'll know that whatever it is, it's going to eventually leave you. So instead of clinging onto something in fear, you learn to appreciate it more. You spend more time with it. You listen to it more. You hold it more. You cherish it's voice, it's touch, it's humanly and earthly features in a new and heightened sense because it won't be with you forever.

Now before you run off with this insight, I'm not saying that you'll never experience fear or anxiety or disappointment because you will. That's comes with being human. What I'm trying to say is that life doesn't have to be painful or as painful as a lot of people, like you and me, make it up to be. You don't have to feel locked in. You don't have to feel incapable of spreading your wings. You can break off the chains that are holding you down and set yourself free. You don't have to cling onto everything that's good. You can still enjoy things from a healthy distance. You don't need anything on this Earth to complete you or make you feel worthy. You were born as a whole, not a broken puzzle trying to find its missing pieces in this world. Walk through life experiencing things, not attaching to them. I promise it'll make a difference.

Stay tuned for part two on, love....

Until next time,

k.m.

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